Getting to know that special woman is about
the time you spend with her, and about what
you get from communication, both verbal and
physical. And the more you know, the better
your chances. Thus if you plan to keep your
relationship moving forward, you are going
to have to find out as much as you can about
her.
After all, the last thing you
want to do is to upset her. That's a
surefire way to kill your chances for
romance. First, make sure you give her a
chance not only to speak, but to start
conversations as well. There is really no
better way to get to know her than through
the interaction you'll have with her in
conversation.
What you learn through all of this
communication will serve as a great starting
point, from which you can move on to the
following suggestions to fill in any blanks
in your knowledge of her.
The point of all of this is to get to know
as much as you can about your woman as an
individual. So many people think that all
women or all men like the same things, which
simply is not true.
Although there are a good number of things
that a lot of women have in common, there
are an equal number of things that they don’t
have in common, either. The same can be said
for men. For example, if a woman were to
assume that all men love football then she’d
be dead wrong! Likewise, a man would be
wrong to assume that
all women love cats.
Each woman is unique, so you must take the
time to find out what she, as a unique
person, really wants before you can seduce
her.
Ultimately, it all comes back to what you
can learn about her for yourself. While it
is helpful to get a few tips from her
friends, family, and acquaintances, too much
of this type of fact-finding will make her
feel more like a suspect in an investigation.
So it's back to what you can find out for
yourself. And the best possible way to do
that is to get her in different settings and
see what happens.
Men and women flirt differently, for different reasons and
expect different outcomes to the
flirting. However, if you put
aside that outcome and
flirt just to be friendly you are opening
yourself to different opportunities. You may well end up with a
new lover but if that doesn’t work out you could meet someone
who becomes a good friend and who knows who she might introduce
you to. Keep your options open.
After you have exchanged glances and smiles
across a room and you are fairly confident that SHE thinks that
she might like to get to know you better, send a drink to her.
But remember that ALL you are buying is a drink. Don’t expect
her to fall at your feet. Sometimes it is nice just to send
someone a drink, watch when she receives it and smile, then look
away – look back again later to show your interest.
If you find yourself invited to her table, keep you mind on the
conversation and not on getting a date with her. Most women want
to know what kind of person they are going out with long before
they actually go out with them. Make an effort to get to know
her and give her the opportunity to get to know you before
diving in for a date.
Do not ever approach two women in the same group. No woman wants
to feel like second best. Refrain from approaching one after
another in the same group. You look like a loser and the women
may think you are desperate and looking for any port in a storm.
Even if you are, don’t show it.
When you compliment a woman make certain that it is a genuine
compliment. There’s nothing worse than someone giving out a load
of overblown lines. Everyone has something great about them,
notice that and compliment them genuinely.
Do not ever put your hands on a woman uninvited.
Some women have no objection to ‘touchy feely’ encounters,
others are horrified by it. Respect the person until you have
had the opportunity to know more about her. Touching can be a
lovely flirty action, but should be confined to the arms or
resting the hand just above the arms and NOT touching, until you
know more. Test the personal space by moving closer, noticing
the reactions then moving back a little to remove the threat.
Respect yourself at all times. Women always fall for men who are
that little bit unreachable. Don't hover or grovel or act
desperate. Think of yourself as special and know what you
deserve the very best.
