If you are hoping to be successful in the
world of seduction, you're going to have to
know
how to be sensitive. When a woman looks
at a man, from her unique perspective, one
of the key things she sees is how sensitive
you are. It can truly be a pass or fail
characteristic. If the lady in your life
doesn't see a sensitive side, she's going to
be put off. Personality counts for so much,
especially if you're hoping to go further
with a relationship.
To begin with, it's important
to understand just what sensitivity is.
Sensitivity, or being sensitive, is just one
of those things that's gotten such a bad rap
as to make it virtually a taboo. But false
impressions are to blame for that, and we
can dismiss such misconceptions here so we
can get on with the business of becoming a
more
sensitive man. But what sensitivity
really is, in truth, is responsiveness to
things around you. It's a general sense of
what's going on.
Unfortunately, you may be thinking you've
already got it pegged. But don't think it's
just a matter of self-awareness and a
general idea of the world around you. The
sensitivity women want in a man goes a bit
further. Or, put more directly, women are
looking for a specific kind of sensitivity
in men.
Here's an example you're sure to remember
from some movie you once saw: a young couple
are walking along a street at night, and the
temperature is dropping. Conveniently, she
had forgotten to bring a coat, but he had
remembered to bring his. He notices her
shivering, and quickly offers his coat to
her, despite his own need for the coat.
Okay, that's a basic example. But what
matters is that the guy was aware of his
girlfriend's need, and he did something
about it. Moreover, he made a sacrifice for
her. This is a big deal. When a man can be
more concerned about the welfare of someone
else than himself, he's got a chance to
impress the ladies.
Your Attitude Counts
When it comes to seducing a woman, attitude
plays a very big role in how successful, or
unsuccessful you are. If you have a
positive attitude you’re more likely to attract women
more easily than a guy with a negative
attitude. Being positive and upbeat shows in
nearly everything you do, as does being
negative and glum. Women are much more
likely to choose the positive, upbeat guys.
First, a positive attitude reflects confidence
and self-respect. As we already discussed, confidence and
self-respect are vital.
A positive attitude also directly affects how other people feel
when they’re around you. For example, have you ever had a friend
or co-worker who was always down or pessimistic? If you have,
did you notice that after a while his or her mood started making
you feel down or uncomfortable or irritable? Chances are it’s
happened to all of us.
So remember, if for no other reason than to not be a dark cloud
hanging over everyone’s head, try your best to be positive and
have a good attitude.
But it goes much further than that. When you’re trying to make
your best impression on a woman, being negative will not work.
You have to feel good before you can make anyone else feel good.
You have to radiate the same kinds of feelings you want to
receive. If you’re not giving off those positive vibes we’ll
pick up on it and most likely steer clear of you.
The bottom line: women like to find a man who’s
stable. Part of what women judge stability on is your work. No,
this doesn’t mean you need to be a rocket scientist. It simply
means that if you’re changing jobs every couple of months, or
getting let go for poor attitude or poor performance, which is
directly affected by your attitude, then we’re going to think
twice before we get involved with you. Remember, women are
looking for a partner; a 50 – 50 relationship.
