Sometimes, knowing what you’re looking for
in a woman can be quite difficult. And if
you’re one of them, don’t get discouraged.
It truly isn’t as difficult as you may think
to find the right woman for you.
The very first thing you must
do is resign to be very open-minded. You
need to cast aside all the standards that
you may have been using and start from
scratch.
Forget what all your buddies say is
attractive.
Never mind what you see in the lingerie
commercials on television. You’ll want to
start with the very basics of what makes two
people compatible, not two lovers, but two
people in general, in order to find what
kind of person works for you.
In order to find out what you are really
looking for in a woman, you need to take the
time to consider the complete person, not
just the body. You need to take into
consideration things like personality,
interests, ambition and then looks. You’re
probably wondering why I listed those traits
in the order I did.
If you consider looks first it will tend to
cloud your judgment on all the other traits.
Men tend to be very easily visually
stimulated. For this reason, what excites
them at first sight tends to be what they
think they want.
However, if you consider what you want in
the other areas, the looks may not be so
important. You may find that a woman with a
great personality that likes football and
racing as much as you do and who takes her
career as a human resources director
seriously, but who happens to be a brunette
with only an average build, would suit you
just fine. Personality, intelligence,
ambition, sense of humor and interests play
a much bigger role in attraction than just
physical appearance.
Don’t Judge a Woman by
Her Looks!
I know this tip may sound very cliché, but
it’s true. At some point or another we’re
all guilty of judging something, or someone,
based on appearance alone. While it’s not
right, we still seem to have that tendency
to be superficial. This type of behavior can
be very detrimental when it comes to
seducing a woman.
Women like to be appreciated for who they are,
not what they look like. Even those women who have great
physical beauty don’t necessarily want to be judged on that
characteristic alone.
Women keep the thought in the back of their mind that one day
they may want to have a child.
If and when they become pregnant, look at all the changes their
body goes through. The mere fact that their body has to expand
at a very rapid pace to accommodate the growth of the baby is
frightening. And the knowledge that their figure may never be
the same is equally frightening.
Another thought that women have is that eventually we all get
older and less youthful in appearance. We know that in general,
a man is considered more distinguished looking when his hair
takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas women merely look
old. A few wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for women the
first sign of a wrinkle is cause to consider botox treatment, or
more. Society has made women terribly self conscious. Bear in
mind when considering what you truly believe is important in a
woman. If looks is top on your list it will surely lead to a
very dissatisfying experience for you, and your woman.
I’m not trying to say that you have to resolve to
be happy with someone you find utterly unattractive. Women all have
preferences in looks, personality and many other traits that we have to
abide by. It’s a matter of compatibility. But what women do have to take
into consideration is that attraction is not just a matter of physical
appearance. So take the time to find out what’s inside before you
discount women based on what’s outside.
