Instead, you need to open strong with a
dramatic, playful flirt... something like
"Hey baby, you looked really smokin' out
there on the dance floor!
Very nice, I
love that _____ look
(mention something unique about her appearance), it's great!"
Your delivery should be big and grand and seasoned with a
2) The motives of women in nightclubs is different than that of
the men, who are basically either trying to meet some hot bitch
or get laid that night. On the other hand, many of the women are
perfectly happy to tease the men and get their rocks off on all
the slobbering male attention -- and that's the extent of it.
They drink this psychological goo up like sweet honey – and the
more determined they are to make a spectacle of themselves the
more certain you can be this is what they're probably all about.
Only the top players who are deep into the culture have a shot
at these type of sexy airheads.
Outside the club these same
girls can sport completely different
personalities -- which is why I say it's
best to try and meet them where they least
expect it in everyday life. Of course, the
attraction of the club scene is that the
chicks are concentrated in one big pile for
you to ogle and hit on -- whereas the
opportunities are certainly far fewer and of
a lower quality in real life. For those of
you with limited patience or who feel that
there aren't enough opportunities available
in your daily life to effectively meet
anyone worthwhile, then the clubs are
probably your better option. Just understand
these major differences and adapt to them.
If you can't get into the hoppin' and
boppin', high-energy aspect of it, then
maybe those quieter corner bars might be a
better bet for you.
3) You need to have excellent non-verbal
communication skills. Why? Because most of
these places are so loud you can barely hear
yourself think much less communicate with
anyone! Typical club music booms along at
volume levels that will make your internal
organs shudder, so IF the strongest part of
your game revolves around your brilliant
conversational skills you won't get to
display much of your talent in this
environment. In fact, you will just melt
away into the before long.
Communication in clubs consists mainly of
groping, making-out and staring into each
other's eyes... in other words, a lot of
physical stuff. Next time you're out at one
of these places just watch how much of this
is going on. It takes a willingness to dive
head first into this mode and get bold with
your hands with women you hardly know. Does
this sort of behavior fit your temperament?
Can you grease up with a few shots of Ol'
Grandad and get into the spirit of things
even if you're normally far more reserved?
Remember that we're not talking about
reality here, but rather the strange
universe of club reality.
4) Watch her eyes!... the eyes will always
tell the tale and they will tell it
immediately. If she won't bother to even
meet your eye when you're trying to engage
her I would suggest that you bail
immediately. She's a Queen who's not
interested in you for whatever reason,
probably because she doesn't recognize you
as being in the "club clique". You're not a
full time player... just a poor amateur
looking for a few thrills. Pushing further
is likely to draw a more publicly
humiliating rejection than anyone should
have to suffer (like I did several times!).
So you should be ready to sort through the
women FAST in this environment. Speaking of
5) Everything is time-compressed in
Clubworld. There's no messing around pulling
phone numbers after long, sunny
conversations. Clubworld is all about
ACTION... this is not a venue for meeting
women with the idea of
dating them in the
future – it's all about TONIGHT! That's why
lots of touching, flirting, sexual innuendo
are in order. The women are there to get
fired-up and have some kind of adventure
that evening, which could mean anything from
a hair-ripping catfight with some other
nasty bitch to getting porked by dreamy Mr.
Disco. They are certainly not there to meet
sweet nice guys for later dating. If that's
what you're about then you will find
yourself on the sidelines.
But... if you can learn how to take on a
"club-face" for yourself – dance, circulate,
get gossiped about by the women, become
recognized as a familiar face, etc. – then
you can thrive in these environs. You'll
have to train yourself to compete against
all the other top dog males just like an
athletic event -- so get busy polishing up
those dance moves, and remember that things
here happen fast!
About the author:
Reformed "social nerd" Mike Pilinski
overcame an incredible case of rejection
phobia by learning how to mimic behaviors
and attitudes that women universally find
attractive in so-called high status or
"alpha" males. Visit Mike's website at
you'll find his highly acclaimed e-books
"Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's
Seduction System" and "She's Yours For The
Taking: A Man's Guide to Seduction".
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