I’m sure you want your date to have fun and
you want to have fun, too! You want to
ensure that the conversation is interesting
and stimulating to both of you.
Body language always speaks first in any
conversation. When you are
confident your
body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean
in, you smile, and you become more animated.
When you are tense or not at ease with
yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing
your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will
barely break a smile, and your eyes will be
searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing
this will allow you to convey confidence
with your body language.
Your
verbal dating conversation skills will
largely be judged on how able you are to
create a conversation that your
partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you
getting
more dates. If you’re thinking this
is obvious, yes it is! The question is HOW
to create an
interesting conversation.
Your
dating conversation will be made up of
you both asking and answering questions. If
you ask the right questions, your partner is
going to have fun. If you ask the wrong
questions, they are going to ditch you. If
you are evasive or less than honest when
answering her questions, she is going to
ditch you quicker.
Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that
when a person is asked a direct question
they somehow feel obligated to answer it.
Here are some conversation starter question
ideas for your
first date:
“What do you
love to do in your spare time?”
“What do you particularly enjoy about that?”
“If you could go on a fantasy holiday,
anywhere in the world, where would it be and
what would you do?”
By asking these questions you will cause
your
date to recall pleasant past
experiences and share them with you.
That is an age-old question. Cave men had it
made. They firmly believed in kidnapping and
taking their date to a filthy cave out in
the middle of nowhere. Those were what was
known as the good old days. Now days
first
date destinations and plans are a little
trickier. First let’s cover where NOT to
go
on a first date.
The old standby of dinner and a movie is a really poor choice
for a first date. How will you get to know the lady if you are
sitting in a darkened theater with a movie being shown? If you
choose the movie, there is probably going to be a lot of frantic
car chases and a lot of blood involved. Neither are conducive to
creating a
memorable evening.
Also, don’t take your date to your parent’s house! She will know
right away that you are a mama’s boy and you will never see her
again.
Don’t take your date to a sleazy bar with a motel out back. You
will scare the poor woman to death. She will jump out of the car
and hitchhike back to town believing that she would be safer
with a burly truck driver than with you.
Now, some good first date ideas are:
Begin with a simple
lunch or coffee date. You want to keep the
date casual so suggesting meeting up for lunch or coffee can be
a good start. This way, if the
date didn’t go so well, you can
end the date there but if you enjoy each other company, you have
the rest of the day to spend getting to know each other better.
Here are some ideas of where to go if the lunch
or coffee date tells you’re there is some good chemistry happening:
If it is the season, an amusement park or a theme park is a good first
date idea. It doesn’t matter how old you are, we can all be big kids at
heart. There’re so much you can do at amusement parks and theme parks
that most likely you will forget about the
dating pressure and just have
fun.
Most well populated areas have an array of museums covering many
different subjects. Visiting one that is dedicated to something that you
have in common with the woman is another
good first date idea.
